Building Self-Worth: Focus on Today and Not on the Past
Living in the now is an important aspect of increasing self-worth. What matters is what happens in the present. What happened in the past stays in the past. People get hurt or frustrated because they can’t change what happened, but it is a part of life you must accept. You may have learned lessons from it, but you can’t dwell on it. You have the power and ability to make changes now you may not have realized in the future. Are you where you want to be in your life? You may not be sure of what happens next, but you can take action now to get you where you want to be soon.
Keep Tabs on Your Successes
One way to keep from putting yourself down is to make a list of accomplishments. Record your achievements in a notebook and when you feel down or in a place where you feel stuck refer to it for motivation. They help you realize you have gotten things accomplished when you stay focused. Living in the present means focusing on actions you can take today to make a better tomorrow. Your achievements can say a lot about your work ethic and personal values. Now, this is a part of your past worth reminiscing about when you need direction. The next time you reach for that notebook you may be ready to add a new one.
You Are Your Best Competitor
Avoid focusing so much on what others can do, but appreciate and value your abilities and what you can do. Getting caught up trying to compete with others doesn’t always highly your best attributes. You may be setting yourself up for failure, and it may affect how you value your worth. Your achievements vary from others because they are of personal ability and how they make you feel. Your achievements are based on your actions and not how they make others feel or how they look at you. Even if others have accomplished the same as you, it comes down to what you make of it and how it has improved you and your life.